100% Responsibility. Is that even Possible!
Responsibiltiy and Blame - Don't get 'em mixed up
First of all lets be clear that this isn't about blame or fault.
There are times in your life when you will be "to blame" for something or "at fault" when something goes wrong. You can either just hope that nobody notices or you can take responsibility and do something about it, which might involve corrective action, making apologies and a host of other things.
There will also be times in your life when things happen that affect you but that you can do nothing about and perhaps don't like. Perhaps someone does something that offends you or makes you angry. Perhaps your company makes your job redundant. In this instance you could blame the other party. You'll notice when you're doing this because you'll be saying things like "you make me so angry" or "if management knew what they were doing they would have ...." or even "they've ruined my life".
Recognise when you're "at effect"
Any of those things is called being "at effect". When you're in this state of allowing events outside of you to affect you adversely, you can't change until they change or the situation changes. You could stay stuck for a long time!
Get into "At Cause"
However, if you adopt an "At Cause" attitude, you take full responsibility for your actions, responses and what happens next. It doesn't meant that you have to like what happened, in fact those emotions are very useful in telling you something isn't right. By being "At Cause", you take 100% responsibilty for choosing what you're going to feel next and what you're going to do next.
We're back to that question from last time: ask yourself "what would I rather have?" or "what would I rather feel?".
Have a play with being At Cause this month. It can be quite liberating.
Wishing you happiness and success.
Dave
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